I deserve better - such a dangerous, mad thought for a woman to entertain.
Meredith Duran, 'At Your Pleasure'
In my heart, I think a woman has two choices: either she's a feminist or a masochist.
I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that
people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a
When you grow up as a girl, it is like there are faint chalk lines traced approximately
three inches around your entire body at all times, drawn by society and often religion
and family and particularly other women, who sometimes feel invested in how you
behave, as if your actions reflect directly on all womanhood.
What are the worst things you can call a guy? Fag, girl, bitch, pussy...Notice anything?
...The worst thing you can call a guy is a girl.
When statistics come in saying that only 29% of American women would describe them-
selves as feminist - and only 42% of British women - I used to think, What do you think
feminism is ladies? What part of "liberation for women" is not for you? Is it freedom to
vote? The right not to be owned by the man you marry? The campaign for equal pay?..
Part of the radical connotation of feminism is not due to the word, but to the action.
The act of a woman standing up for herself is radical, whether she calls herself a fem-
inist or not.
Individual heterosexual women came to the movement from relationships where men
were cruel, unkind, violent, unfaithful. Many of these men were radical thinkers who
participated in movements for social justice, speaking out on behalf of workers, the
poor, speaking out on behalf of racial justice. But when it came to the issue of gen-
der, they were as sexist as their conservative cohorts.
I asked a Burmese why women, after centuries of following their men, now walk ahead.
He said there were many unexplored land mines since the war.
Once you start to speak, people will yell at you. They will interrupt you, put you down.
And the world won't end...And you will still flirt and paint your nails, dress up and
party, because, as I think Emma Goldman said, " If I can't dance, I don't want to be part
of your revolution." And at last you'll know with surpassing certainty that only one thing
is more frightening than speaking your truth. And that is not speaking .